Gutted

Good friends rang up last night to tell us they'd lost their baby to miscarriage at 4 months. How do you comfort someone who's heart is breaking and broken when you know the pain they are feeling. There are no words to answer the questions, no phrases to comfort from the pain, no sentences that will give hope.

It's crazy, becuase while I've been there, in losing two babies, it was only at 10 weeks, this was seeing a formed child, not just knowing it was there. I know what not to say - things like, at least you've got your other kids, oh well, wasn't meant to be, or something must have been wrong and this is natures way. We don't care at this point. We just want it to stop hurting!

I will see her this afternoon - I just hope I can hug at least a little of the hurt away.